Bringing "perfect gifts" (see blog post by Marie Suszynski) is a wonderful gesture. Here is one gift I've given, hoping to make it easier for friends to get help without feeling like they are asking for help: homemade coupons good for...
- One ride to and from treatment.
- One grocery shop. "You supply list. I return with groceries."
- One errand run.
- One load of laundry. "You supply clothes. I return with them washed, dried, folded."
- One homemade meal at my home. "I pick you up and take you home."
- One homemade dinner brought to your house. "You choose from menu."
- One ride for an elderly aunt to her doctor.
- One ride for an elderly aunt to the emergency room.
- One ride for an elderly aunt to her hair dresser.
- One afternoon outing during which "health, doctors, treatments" are never mentioned (unless you decide you want to talk about that).
- One home visit for a venting session (no limits on acceptable topics; everything confidential).
- One middle-of-the-night call to talk (no limits on acceptable topics; everything confidential).
- One home visit for a tear-filled session (no reason necessary; everything confidential).
- One telephone call for a tear-filled session (no reason necessary; everything confidential).
You get the idea. I like to indicate an expiration date (e.g., one year from now) and put in multiples of each coupon.
For the next few months, the person can feel comfortable redeeming coupons instead of asking for help.