A NYTimes story of Dr. Pardi's dying illustrates that it is difficult to project what you will think or feel when faced with a grim prognosis.
In 1993, I expected to die of my recurrent lymphoma before my oldest child graduated elementary school. At the same time, I hoped that investigational treatments would rescue me (which they did).
An essential element of being a Healthy Survivor is striving for a balance of hope and acceptance that helps us get good care and live as fully as possible. Physicians can help us find that balance if they strive to ensure that we:
- Understand our choices.
- Make free choices.
- Know we can change our mind.
- Trust them to respect our choices and provide good quality care.
As discussed in If--Not When, as a Healthy Survivor you can ask your physician to help you find a balance of hope and acceptance that helps you live as fully as possible, whatever levels of hope and acceptance that might be.