Today let's look at her husband's view of the article. Robert Pardi's comments were posted on Pallimed to enrich -- or shall I say, to straighten out -- the discussion about his wife's decision. Although he doesn't use the term, he's telling us his wife was a Healthy Survivor.
"I am Desiree's husband and...I need to convey that the article was very misleading...."
He tells us his wife was passionate about teaching patients the advantages and disadvantages of each option at the end of life, from their choices regarding pain control to their decisions about how to spend remaining time. "She believed in people needing to know the truth and planning accordingly."
Mr. Pardi respected his wife's choices, including her choice of coping mechanism: "...using me as her information buffer (inaccurately referred to as 'denial' by many). We had a medical team and a wonderful oncologist for over 5 years who supported her while using me as that buffer...we agreed to go that route." (my emphasis)
As an advocate for Healthy Survivorship, I applaud her husband and medical team. It must have been difficult to shield her from news and to watch her live with pain. But they understood that only in this way could she continue her work for as long as possible, the work she felt made her life worth living.