A Loss is a Loss: Cancer survivors often talk of reordered priorities and no longer sweating the small stuff. But just because a computer crash is not life-or-death, I still had a right to feel upset and sad.
Some people were sympathetic. A cardiologist-friend said, "I am so sorry! It would be like me losing my stethoscope," an image I found particularly touching because my address book helps me touch the heart of others.
I was surprised by the occasional comment suggesting I deserved it for not backing up Outlook. It doesn't matter that this is true, which it is. What matters is that I was upset; Blaming me didn't help me adjust or move on.
Also, although it was helpful for me to say to myself and others, "It's just a thing," it was decidedly not helpful when someone else said the same phrase. Why is that? Because when I said it, I was in control, trying to find balance after my loss. When someone else said it, they unwittingly discounted my loss.
Healthy Survivors know that the human reaction to loss -- any loss -- is grief. If reordered priorities make it easier to face a loss with equanimity, that's terrific. But as a Healthy Survivor, honor your grief over little and big losses, even if they are not life-and-death.