A commenter wrote "[A]ll of your suggestions here seem to protect the ego of the doctor.... I do sometimes feel that I need to "arm" myself. It's not the way it should be but, unfortunately, sometimes it is the way things are."
Many things in modern medicine are not the way they should be, such as waiting in a cold exam room for physicians who are running late. What's a Healthy Survivor to do?
Healthy Survivors learn how to negotiate the many things in modern medicine that are not healing, and to do it in ways that help them (1) get good care and (2) live as fully as possible.
An adversarial relationship with your physician is not conducive to Healthy Survivorship. Why? Because physicians:
- Are the experts who apply what is known about your medical challenges to your individual situation.
- Are your link to the technological miracles of modern medicine.
- Have the opportunity to comfort you in healing ways not available to anyone else.
When your relationship with your physicians feels adversarial, determine if you can change things for the better. If you are unsuccessful in your efforts, or if you are unwilling to make the effort for whatever reason, switch doctors.