In my June 8th post, I share my discomfort with the notion of "arming yourself with ammunition" to encourage your physician to prescribe a specific treatment regimen. Any words and actions that suggest an adversarial stance threaten a healing clinician-patient bond.
Here are some options for making your case in healing ways:
- "I expect to follow your final recommendations. But it would be helpful for me to share briefly why (specific treatment) seems like the best treatment for me based on what I've learned since my last visit."
- "Please understand that I do not want this to sound like I'm arguing. I would appreciate if you could explain your thoughts about the risks and benefits FOR ME of (specific treatment)."
- "I realize my perspective is that of a (specific role, e.g., teacher, corporate executive, stay-at-home parent). Even if I were an oncologist, I'd depend on your perspective and advice. From my vantage, (specific treatment) feels like the best choice for me. Can you help me understand why you think it is not the best option for me?"
- "I just want to do what is best for me, whatever that is. I realize you are the expert. It would help me to briefly explain why (specific treatment) sounds to me like the best treatment for me."
If none of these suggestions may feel comfortable for you, that's okay. My hope is that these examples help you find healing ways to communicate your opinions regarding your treatment at your doctor visits.