Debbie commented on my last blog post: "This definitely reminds me of the question 'How are you?' and how tricky a question it can be. Thank you for helping me become a more sensitive friend."
It is I who should be thanking Debbie. Almost two decades ago, our discussions prompted me to write the following essay in an attempt to understand my problem with people asking "How are you?" It helped me. I hope you find it useful.