What does a Healthy Survivor do about the constant news coverage of the Connecticut massacre?
The news stunned and saddened me. As a Healthy Survivor, I asked myself "How much do I, Wendy, need to learn about the 20 precious children and the 6 adults whose lives were cut short?"
Here are some of the reasons why I am not reading or watching the grief-filled personal stories:
- I have a choice. The coverage reflects the media's choice, a decision dictated by forces having nothing to do with my welfare. I disagree with the media's choice of information deemed worthy of my attention today.
- Nothing positive comes out of my learning the details. I've absorbed the headlines. Today, looking at the pictures and reading about the grieving parents, young siblings, classmates, teachers and community members left behind serves no good purpose for me. Personalizing the stories of the individuals cannot affect positively anything I think, feel, do or say in my life.
- Media stories distort my perception. Paying attention to the details without spending an equal amount of time paying attention to all the personal stories of people thriving in joyful circumstances distorts my perception in maladaptive, harmful ways.
- Paying attention stirs harmful negative feelings. I have enough pain and grief in my personal life concerning people I know and love. Watching the tragedy-related human interest stories broadcast from Connecticut stirs feelings that make it more difficult to be a Healthy Survivor who embraces what joys are possible in my life.