In a recent HuffPost entry, The Well-Meaning Friend, Miele cattily castigates some friends who never contacted her again after learning she had metastatic breast cancer. She describes how gut wrenching it feels when a friend ditches you in a time of need.
Miele experienced a healing sense of closure after emailing how terribly their abandonment had hurt. Her healing resulted from her act, independent of their response (or lack of one).
She shared a poem with other patients living with metastatic cancer, hoping her "over-the-top, hypothetical, tongue-in-cheek scenario...will give you a chuckle.... [I]f we don't laugh at ourselves now and then, we may be given to crying."
Miele characterizes her book, Kicking Cancer to the Curb, as "an eclectic collection of memories, innermost thoughts, future visions, constructive criticism, dreams and wistfulness. There is no central, overriding theme or moral."
The book reflects her truth about the tribulations and triumphs of striving to embrace life despite advanced cancer. Much of her unvarnished meanderings may upset patients. Other patients may experience an it's-not-just-me sense of validation that helps them heal.
Healthy Survivors do whatever it takes to get good care and live as fully as possible. As for what it takes, that's different for each person. But it's not a free pass to hurt others. (Thank you, Joni, for your comment)